And guess what: it's really hard! And messy! And you're not alone! We also got our homie Gene Demby of NPR's Code Switch on the line to talk through the now-public email exchange between Margaret Cho and Tilda Swinton about whitewashed Hollywood roles. With the holiday season comes more awkward conversations with family, so we're bringing you an encore episode of our first ever call-in show where you, dear listeners, share with us how you're talking gender, race, politics, and more with your parents, aunties, in-laws, step-siblings, nephews, and more.